I Am Free | THREE THINGS THAT WILL HELP US LET GO AND STEP FEARLESSLY INTO 2015

Yup. Can you believe it? 2014 is coming to a close, and 2015 is just moments away. Where did it go? What did I do? Who did I become? What will I do? Where will I go? Who will I become? Yes. Lots of questions, with some answers: and some with no answers. There is a lot that is known, and there is much more that is unknown. That's the best part right? We know so much, yet there is so much more to find out. A new year is the greatest symbol in our lives to embrace new beginnings from all aspects of our lives with open arms. And even if there are things currently in our lives that are preventing us from embracing that newness with open arms, 2015 is about breaking free from the struggles and obstacles and pains of the past that are preventing us from moving forward.  Once we break free we can have better relationships, better experiences, better health, more money, more success, more fame, more wealth, more honesty, more truth, more celebrations, more love, more happiness. Once we break free, let go and move forward fearlessly into the new year of 2015, we can have, be, do and express anything that we want. Once we break free of what people think and what society thinks, we can truly live as liberated souls unleashing our talents, skills, and life mastery each and every day. Pretty fuckin' cool right? 

But How?

The End of Sadness Forever | THREE WAYS TO TELL DEPRESSION AND STRESS TO PISS OFF

Can you say, "Fuck Depression"? I knew you could. Some of you who are super upright, religious, or of high moral standard would never say such a thing. But let's be real: if there were ever a time you wanted to use a colorful expletive like fuck, it would be towards depression and stress. Sometimes we experience depression and stress in small doses. But sometimes those moments can be overwhelming, burdensome, woeful, and extremely terrifying. We turn to family, and they don't get us. We turn to friends and they "kinda get us", but not really. We turn to teachers and mentors, but sometimes their perception and understanding of our situation sounds like it comes from a cloud in heaven where white doves fly and trumpets sound: almost if they can't even relate. We read self-help books, and sometimes the advice there is good: really good. But then, our ability to sustain the tactics necessary to keep us strong, loving and blissful begin to wane and become mundane again. And that in turn puts us back to square one. And then what? WTF.

So how do we eliminate depression and sadness?

The Power of Good Sex | THREE REASONS TO SAVE YOUR BODY FOR TRUE INTIMACY

The Joy of Sex. To feel it and experience it can be mind blowing. When the chemistry is right, sex can be truly magical. That sweet contact of skin, the exchange of fluids, the heat of passion, the alchemical seduction and the entire beauty of the sexual act can be so very powerful. I mean seriously, think about it: the sweet smell of your partner, the touch of their hair, the amazing endowment of his or her body parts. This all adds to the sexual experience. To know what your partner likes and what turns him on. To know what your partner needs and what drives her wild. And the best part of all, is knowing how far the other is willing to go and how much adventure can take place in order to enhance the sexual experience for an ultimate climax. It is a rarity that this can happen with a one-night stand or a quick fling: not never, just rare. Because in order for the chemistry between two people to ignite, there must be heat. In order to feel that fire and passion, there must be intimacy: otherwise it can be just plain old, boring sex. Many of us have had sex for the sake of having sex, just to "get our rocks off". He pulls her hair, he spanks her, he licks her, he twirls her, he deals with her properly: but maybe there is no intimate connection. She licks him, she rides him, she makes him moan, and maybe she even spanks him: but maybe there is no intimate connection here either. On the other hand, two people (or more) could come together and have great sex, and there may be a moment of intimacy that may last as long as the sex session itself. It just might end right after the climax. That is not to say that it wasn't good. It could have very well have been damn good (and much needed for that matter): but the craving may not be long lasting. 

Some cravings end after the sexual act. Some cravings last for a period of time: one month, six months, three years, ten years. Some cravings last forever. For the ones that are long lasting, there is a constant stimulation: a constant and eternally evolving fantasy that is added into the relationship that keeps the intimacy alive and well. And in this way, the sex can be exciting if your partner is worth it. Because if your partner is not worth it, you won't be willing to go through all the tests, trials and tribulations of giving birth to a more powerful, a more exciting, and a more dynamic sexual relationship. And unfortunately if your partner is not worth it, the end of the relationship will take place, or intense amounts of cheating will take place. There ends the good sex, but not forever. We can go back to having random sexual escapades with that hot guy at work or with that girl in your yoga class with the super-hot booty pants. There's no doubt about that. However, we have to be willing to save ourselves for that right partner: for the woman or man that just gets us. We have to be willing to discipline ourselves to not give away our beautiful sexual energy to any old person all the time because he or she "fits the bill". I mean I get it: sometimes you just need to be fucked properly and be done with it. However, doing it all the time can really weaken us, destroy our self-confidence, and diminish our character and well-being. But here's what we should be doing:

1. Saving Our Sexual Energy

Since time immemorial, ancient healers have always talked about the preservation of the sexual fluids and the sexual power. It is indeed possible to waste away our sexual vigor and fortitude if that energy is not directed towards one person (or persons: let's be real), and consistently. Each and every time we have sex, we mentally and physically prepare ourselves to connect with someone. Whether we are aware of it or not, our entire psyche and our entire body is attempting to connect to another person's: before the sexual act and during the sexual act. If that connection does not take place precisely, it is possible that our entire energy and sexual power can be wasted, and the orgasm rendered flavorless. So, is it important to test the waters and make sure the sex is good with your potential partner? Yes. It better be damn good. Fuck that. But, should you be using your sexual energy on random people because you're good in bed and because you're easily turned on? No. You gotta learn how to control that and discipline yourself. In all honesty, if you have to choose between multiple partners or masturbating, break out the toys and put your hands to work. Save your sexual energy for that really really good one. Otherwise, you will diminish your ability to continually have good sex. And as an end result, you will weaken your entire immune system: we don't want that.

2. Fantasizing About The Possibilities With One Person

A one person fantasy? For some of you out there, this might sound relatively boring. However, to have that one person in your life that truly gets you psychologically, spiritually, and sexually, it can make for amazingly powerful and life-changing sexual experiences. Again, not to say that this is impossible with the flings, flames, and one-night stands, but it's rare. You deserve to have amazing sex of endless possibilities with that one person you've always dreamed of. You deserve to have amazingly powerful sexual adventures with the person you are madly in love with because they are good people: and because they make you horny and always leave you craving for more. Yes. You definitely deserve that. Never do you have to settle for random poetic affairs akin to that of a Woody Allen movie. You can have it all with one person. But you have to believe and know that it is truly possible to have that undying sexual fantasy with that one person. And once your needs are filled in the bedroom, endless possibilities exists not only in the relationship itself, but also in our personal and business lives. And, that is because you are not constantly thinking about good sex, bad sex, more sex, etc. You have what you need. Gentle or rough, you are well taken care of. Imagine that. 

3. Building Our Confidence To Keep Our Partner Satiated

Let's face it. At some point or another, some of us have had insecurities about our sexual abilities. Besides if you don't doubt your sexual ability at some point, you can't learn how to be a better lover and evolve: for your mate and for yourself. Some women and men claim that they just prefer that their lover know exactly what to do in the bedroom. And while that is a sweet feeling, that gets old really quickly. It is amazing to have a lover that knows how to handle you sexually, but it is even more amazingly beautiful when you and your lover can explore, play and "walk the line" with the sexual journey together. When you are willing to learn more about sex with your mate, you are able to better satisfy them and enhance the sexual exploration. When you are able to openly communicate about sex and all of its intricate details with each other, the possibility exists to not only have a sexual partner for life, but also to have a sense of confidence when it comes to making love, fucking, and all sorts of other intimate play with your love. Sex must be communicated. Some are better at it than others: but we can only get better with practice and trying to be better everyday. It is when we decide not to practice building that sexual confidence with our lover, that we become insecure and doubtful. It is when we decide not to practice building sexual conversation with our lover, that we go on cheating and having lustful and emotional affairs. "Baby, I love this: give me more." "Baby, my body is not enjoying this: it feels awkward." A dialogue such as this--at some level--must be adopted. This is intimacy. I personally have had moments where this sort of dialogue appears in a short-term relationship or a fling, but again, it is extremely rare. It requires a deep-seated intimate chemistry, and that is oftentimes rooted in passion and heat which is in essence rooted in a foundation of ongoing seduction between two people. It takes work to attain that sort of vibration with your mate. That's why most people turn to the short-term relationship or the quick "bang me up". However, it's worth saving your body for that beautifully confident and intimate sex.  

So have your sex. Just make sure it's worth your time and energy. If it's not, save your body for that true intimacy. Heck, I would. 

Oh yea. By the way. Use protection.

Happy Trails.

Feeling Sexy is Feeling Healthy | THREE TIPS ON HOW SEX APPEAL DRIVES OUR LONGEVITY

So let's state the obvious: the girl in the image above is beautiful (actually pretty damn hot). She can definitely be viewed as sexy and attractive. Some women may even think that they will never be able to look like her: and they are absolutely right. It is completely impossible to look exactly like the woman in the image above. She probably has a different genetic makeup from most women. She was probably born and raised in a different part of the world than most women. And, it is also very likely that she probably eats very different from most women.  She probably thinks about different things: and also probably does different things. And, all these things factor into her look and image. 

However, does she feel sexy? Does she know that she is beautiful? Does she even view herself as a sexually appealing person in this world? Because if she doesn't, none of our perceptions of her really matter. If she doesn't truly know that she is beautiful and sexy and attractive, she can't feel sexy. Without the feeling of that sex appeal, she can't truly know all the benefits that being and feeling sexy can offer her. The feeling of sexy must come from within her entire being. She must know it within her heart that she feels good and looks good. The external version of her must tie into her internal version. Otherwise, the external form that we view as beautiful and attractive will be equally sappy to the internal version of herself.

It is important that we all feel sexy in our hearts. I know it sounds cheesy and maybe even corny, but it's true. If we don't know of our own accord that we are smokin' hot, it is almost worthless to be beautiful to the world at large yet ugly to our own true self. But once we do feel sexy and beautiful and attractive internally, our entire state of mental and physical health increases a thousandfold. By feeling good internally, we can live a stress free life that will naturally add life to our years in this world. 

All that being said, here are three tips on how feeling that sex appeal can keep us healthy:

1. More confidence dealing with people

Let's face it: people really suck sometime. And because people have their own issues, they sometimes project those issues on us. Their negative vibration can really take a toll on our being. However, by knowing how beautiful, and sexy and amazing we are, their opinions will matter less to us. It is because of our own insecurities that their opinions and thoughts affect us. But by feeling that much better about ourselves internally, we not only feel better externally but we also are able to live a stress free and healthier life.

2. Less stress in our body

Stress is the leading cause of pain, suffering, and disease in our bodies. And one of the reasons we are always so stressed out is that we are always so worried about how we are viewed and interpreted by the world at large. By feeling and knowing in our hearts that we are beautiful on multiple levels, we don't let the world view stress us and wear on us. By being a beacon of that true inner beauty, everyone in the world naturally sees us as beautiful beings. When we are accepted and validated by our own true self deep within our heart, everything that the world says wonderful about us is just more icing on the cake.

3. We redefine sexy 

Back to the image at the top: it's just my opinion alone that deems the woman as beautiful and hot. I have chosen that image. As a creative being in this world, I share the divine power of choice. In this very moment, that is my definition of sexy. But, it doesn't have to be yours. And to be quite honest, it may not be what I think is sexy tomorrow. We all share that power to define sexy and beautiful and attractive. And once we feel that sex appeal inside of our heart, we become that supreme definition of sexy. Each of us views the world very different from another. And just as we can accept definitions about things, we can also create definitions for things. We can be the definition of sexy. We can be the living example of sexy. We can be the standard of sexy. In this way, we also shape the world. In this way, we become all that we wish to be. When we get out of our own way and allow ourselves to just be any way we wish to be, the true sexy is unveiled. And that true sexy we seek externally is really that version of ourselves in which we are truly happy with.

So, get out there and be sexy. And not for anyone else but you.

This is feeling healthy. This is feeling sexy.

This is longevity...

the Best Practices of a Healthy Life | BECAUSE 2014 IS THE BEST YEAR OF OUR LIVES

If you are going to make some resolutions for 2014, make sure that they are actually commitments and dedicated practices. Many a time, if we don't firmly commit and connect to our New Year's resolutions, they become fleeting ideas and vague philosophies that we vainly identify with. If we don't commit to practice of these resolutions, they become part of some egocentric story that we carry on so that we can talk about it in our social circles: merely for our own pleasure. And let's be honest, that's not cool. It's not honest. And, it's definitely not real. 

This year we want to bring more honesty and truth into our everyday lives. Let us start out by committing to the resolutions that we set out to practice so that we can become more amazing for our friends, our family and our surroundings. We have to commit to being the change and the enlightenment we wish to see in this world. We have to commit our entire mind and our body to being and embodying that practice and that commitment that we wish to attain. 

Let's start with committing to our best practices. And here are the best practices of 2014:

1. Cleaner, balanced, and healthier eating habits

Find some sort of eating regimen that works for you and stick to it! There are lots of diets and health programs that are out there. Some work, some don't, and some are just plain complicated. At the end of the day, you must choose what is best for you and your daily life. Eat to feel good everyday: and without fail.

2. Cut back on all vices and addictions

Because they drain you and because they attract the wrong sort of people in your life. Period.

3. Healthier, more positive people around you 

You have to be around people that bring out the best in you at all times. These are the people that challenge you and inspire you daily. These are the people that are smarter than you: more experienced than you. These are the people that are more successful, more innovative, and even more loving and compassionate than you are. Get clear about your surroundings.

4. Daily, balanced, and healthy exercise

Not only is it good for maintaining that beautiful body you've always wanted, but daily exercise also keeps your brain strong, powerful, and filled with lots of clarity. It's not always about pushing yourself to the edge, but its about challenging yourself in a way that is uplifting, healthy and honest.

5. Make more personal time (for creativity, hobbies, relaxation, for fun, etc)

You deserve to treat yourself to some fun, uplifting activities. Yes, you should definitely work hard. But you should also balance out the stress with honest, personal time for yourself.

6. More patience with everything and everyone (Try, dammit)

Um. Yea. Practice patience. Key word: practice. People are supposed to test our patience. However, it is our job to get stronger so that we can continually rise above the challenging circumstances of our lives. And practicing patience doesn't mean torturing yourself in dealing with a circumstance that you don't like. Your practice of patience itself has to be honest: honest practice, honest result. 

7. Love your enemies, just be sure to maintain some distance

To expend energy hating or disliking someone is a complete waste of time. Love them. Have compassion for them. But move on so that you can continue to grow and expand. The End.

8. Read/Watch more quality material

Read and watch from media sources that inspire you. These media outlets should challenge your thinking, or inspire creativity, or excite you about life, or simply bring you lots of joy. Everyday we are planting seeds for tomorrow's cultivation. Be mindful, practice awareness, and choose wisely when it comes to the media. After all, you become what you take in.

9. Be nicer, and more compassionate

Because you'll go a lot further: in business, in your love life, in your personal life: and especially in your own personal development. Everyday, we mature. 

10. Be better than yesterday

Every moment is an opportunity to learn more, grow more, and expand more. Challenge yourself daily, and with self-awareness. Be more open to experience. Be receptive.